“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”
– Robert Jordan
My family and I live by an ancient proverb: “This to shall pass”. Emotions and experiences come and go as does the wind. You must be acceptant that the difficult times you are experiencing will pass and allow it to do so (without displacing the emotions with alcohol, drugs, excessive food, and so on). You must also apply the same thought process to joyful experiences instead of obsessively holding onto these experiences and measuring everything else against them. This knowledge and awareness will keep you balanced in difficult times and humble in the good. “This to shall pass”.
Resilience is key to overcoming and surviving hardships. One can live a highly successful and happy life, but as soon as something negative arises he/she may well come crumbling down. Building a mental resilience and awareness can be difficult if you have yet to experience some form of disappointment, hard times, or have not yet learned from the ones you have experienced. In saying that, a continuous onslaught of negative experiences can serve to destroy one’s resilience and not allow it to build up over time. Equally, not exploring the eventualities of life and its experiences can lead to a fatal lack of mental resilience when you most need it.
Developing good resilience may well be easier if you have been exposed to a degree of negative experiences during childhood as I have, but I do not believe there is enough research to substantiate this viewpoint and neither should we purposefully experiment to find out. As children, we can grow better accustomed to hard times which indirectly helps one to deal with the rougher times that may await. However, there are some habits that we can obtain through practice that can ultimately help us to be more resilient. Allow me to break this down into three quick sections; relationships, finance, and death.
Whether with a loved one or friend, having the relationship on an equal standing from the outset is vital to developing resilience for the unfortunate case of a breakdown. Equally sharing thoughts, feelings, and conversations keeps one from indirectly being elevated to the leader or downgraded to the follower. Being on equal standing will help you to make better and firmer decisions in relation to your relationship…
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