Resilience ~ Replug YOU Series

“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”
– Robert Jordan

My family and I live by an ancient proverb: “This to shall pass”. Emotions and experiences come and go as does the wind. You must be acceptant that the difficult times you are experiencing will pass and allow it to do so (without displacing the emotions with alcohol, drugs, excessive food, and so on). You must also apply the same thought process to joyful experiences instead of obsessively holding onto these experiences and measuring everything else against them. This knowledge and awareness will keep you balanced in difficult times and humble in the good. “This to shall pass”.

Resilience is key to overcoming and surviving hardships. One can live a highly successful and happy life, but as soon as something negative arises he/she may well come crumbling down. Building a mental resilience and awareness can be difficult if you have yet to experience some form of disappointment, hard times, or have not yet learned from the ones you have experienced. In saying that, a continuous onslaught of negative experiences can serve to destroy one’s resilience and not allow it to build up over time. Equally, not exploring the eventualities of life and its experiences can lead to a fatal lack of mental resilience when you most need it.

Developing good resilience may well be easier if you have been exposed to a degree of negative experiences during childhood as I have, but I do not believe there is enough research to substantiate this viewpoint and neither should we purposefully experiment to find out. As children, we can grow better accustomed to hard times which indirectly helps one to deal with the rougher times that may await. However, there are some habits that we can obtain through practice that can ultimately help us to be more resilient. Allow me to break this down into three quick sections; relationships, finance, and death.

Relationship/Friendship resilience

Whether with a loved one or friend, having the relationship on an equal standing from the outset is vital to developing resilience for the unfortunate case of a breakdown. Equally sharing thoughts, feelings, and conversations keeps one from indirectly being elevated to the leader or downgraded to the follower. Being on equal standing will help you to make better and firmer decisions in relation to your relationship…

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4 thoughts on “Resilience ~ Replug YOU Series

  1. May I quote the quote and the first paragraph? I have been ungrounded of late and the words are those that I have spoken to others, and of course when not needed, they faded into the experience that is me. I have been asking for a mirror back to me, and in this, has been the reply. Thank you. (oh, I put things that are of help to me on my blog Noticing Nature, I have a quote page.)

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    1. Hi Elisa,

      Yes, please do and thank you. I’m going to check out Noticing Nature also. 🙂 You know, often when we help others we forget ourselves. Replug YOU and do you for 2014.

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      1. I know, it’s when one is a caregiver to one’s own differently able child that the giving out can become an unbalance that cannot be shed. I remember that such a ‘forget’ can be the entire gamut of experience of running from self to forgetting that there is a self to care for, too. I’ve had a creative spurt today and I’d like to continue attending to it. I placed the quote on the quotations page and I will await the end of reaction to, perhaps, post a blog with my ponderings about it.

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        1. I totally understand. My younger sister is autistic, and I saw how this affected my mother’s own self-focus/care. Sometimes it is very difficult and we often forget just the simple little, common sense things that we can apply to our daily habits that will help to keep us balanced. This is why I wrote the short well-being book. I wrote it for my children, so that they can use it in the future when/if needed. You never know what’s going to happen tomorrow right?!

          I hope your creative spurt served you well and in good form. Harmonic blessings.

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